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What’s there to smile about?

I am a simple man in a crazy world, or is it the other way around? I have absolutely no desire to become famous, so please try to forget what I look like as fast as possible.  If you need help forgetting me, I will try to write a confusing profile. I am a writer and a creator, a loving father and husband (I hope), and an agoraphobic with  several other anxiety disorders thrown in for good measure. I am sure you can see why this makes me the life of the party -in my head.  If you wish to find out how I cope (and don’t cope) with life, just keep reading – as if that will help.

Picture this: Your heart pounds so much that you swear you are about to have a heart attack.  Your palms get sweaty.  Something inside tells you to run and hide – that voice, that nagging voice that has tormented you all your life and kept you apart from everyone else.  You feel completely paralyzed, and your only thoughts are to escape, to hide, to disappear. You feel like you are going to be sick.  Get the idea?

Now, try to imagine the situation to which this applies? Being on stage?  Giving a speech? Facing a large crowd of people? Standing at home plate, facing a 100-mph fastball with the game on the line?

No.  This is me peeking out my front door, trying to muster enough courage to walk 10 feet across my porch to get the mail from inside the mailbox. This is what I face every day.  This is what I have to cope with; and this is one of the reasons I write this blog. I want to help people cope with the obstacles they face in their lives.

I won’t preach.  There are no definite answers.  All that I can do is to offer advice about what has worked for me, and what might help you. One thing I do know for sure: we are all in this together, so if you need a hand, I am here to offer it.

22 responses »

  1. Tertia says:

    Hello, I wanted to tell you I nominated your blog for the Liebster award. I hope you don’t mind, and you’re free to ignore it if you wish. Check out my site’s last post for the details. Thanks!

  2. greenblade says:

    I like your blog. I appreciate your sassy blog title “Stepping Out with An Agoraphobic” – lol.

    I think overall my main anxiety issues have been generalized but sometimes maybe there has been an agoraphobic aspect to them. Sometimes I can get kind of panic attacks on freeways or bridges, especially if I have someone in the car with me. Maybe that’s something different than agoraphobia, I’m not sure.

    Anyway, thanks for your blog postings! I’m going to download some Janis Joplin songs– haven’t listened to her songs in a long time.

  3. Hi, I’ve nominated your blog for The Liebster Award. If you feel like checking out the details, you can go here http://stunnedandstunted.wordpress.com/2013/10/15/liebster-award-times-two/ . All the best to you. 🙂
    I see you’ve already been nominated but another nomination can’t hurt!

  4. Colleen says:

    Hi Joe. I have nominated you for the Dragon’s Loyalty Award — do as you will with it — but it is a direct hint what I would like for Christmas.

    http://lifeinthecitywithafuture.wordpress.com/2013/12/01/dragons-loyalty-award/

  5. Enjoying your blog! Thanks for the follow! I am looking forward to your future posts!

  6. Hello Joe, thank you so much for nominated my blog…ı am very glad and happy 🙂 Be honest my English not very well and to follow rules is not easy for me…ı am happy to find your blog by this way 🙂 very nice to see your wonderful smiling face, have a good day!

    Ayşe

  7. arkansasrose says:

    I have enjoyed your profile and look foward to reading your blog. Thank you for the support you showed on mine.I don’t have anagoraphobic but I do have other social anxieties that are at time very debilitating. I have enjoyed your profile and look foward to reading your blog.

  8. arkansasrose says:

    Whoops, I didn’t mean to repeat myself. I won’t be making a career out of proof-reading.

  9. Victoria says:

    You have an awesome smile Joe! I love your blog and can relate to stepping out the front door. I’ve dealt with years of anxiety just getting in a car or a plane, but going full steam ahead anyway. All the best to you dear man. -:)

  10. Amy says:

    I know how you feel. I have been there on many occasions. It takes a lot of courage to get through the day when faced with anxiety, and I commend you on your sense of humor and honesty. Keep up the good work.

  11. Cezane says:

    Your about page is so good, there is a lot of talent here and i am staying tuned to see it being unleashed further. Planning to read your older posts relatively soon brother. Your writing style is quite dope, captures attention to read further all the way -Cezane

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